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03 Dec 2011 1:46AM

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My recent issue in a few morally fucked up points...
Have a female friend.
She has hot boyfriend.
We've been sleeping together for a couple months now.
In her bed, her house and all while she's at work.
Here's the hard part
He told me that he loves me.
I love him back.
I know I'm going to get hurt, but I keep telling myself that I'm not.
I feel bad for going behind her back, but only for a minute.
Should I go for what I want, or do what is morally right?
I do have to add...best sexual connection and experience of my life.

TL;DR? Fucking my bff's boyfriend. Keep going? Or stop?

Give honest, full opinions. I'll answer questions.

What should I do?

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 1:56AM

What you should do is stop and never speak of it again. But we all know that's not really an option. So, ultimatum time. You're most likely going to lose her as a friend no matter what you do, keep that in mind. Secrets don't keep. He's gotta make a choice and so do you. You keep fucking him behind your friend's back and your soul is going to rot. Also, in my experience, relationships that start this way have always ended poorly for me, can't say I've seen them end well with anyone I know. Anyway, I say you stop fucking him, come clean to your friend and pray she forgives you. Loyalty is something to be treasured, something you probably will not receive from him, keep that in mind too.

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03 Dec 2011 2:16AM

I know that I'll lose her as a friend. I accept that. We spent last night in a hotel room. Just us all night. We talked quite a bit and he said, "I'm gonna get my fucking heart ripped out." He tells me that he's not happy with her. This is also the person that says that he feels that being with me is right. I specifically asked him last night if he regretted cheating on his girlfriend, and he said never. What's killing me inside isn't the fact that I'm betraying a friend...it's the fact that I have to hide my feelings and thoughts. I've never felt like this. Ever. No matter what kind of mood I'm in, I even so much as THINK of him, and I'm instantaneously better. I'm simply at a loss.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:36AM

His words are not to be trusted, his actions must speak for him now. He does not regret betraying the trust of someone who has put their trust in him and whom he is still deceiving regularly? You should very, very, very carefully consider making any more forward with him. What happens when he gets bored and some other hottie comes along and suddenly, OMGWTFBBQ! SHE'S THE ONE I WANT! You'll be broken hearted, minus a friend. The fact that you're still contemplating being with him is ridiculous. If you're still going to attempt a relationship with him he must end the one he is currently in immediately. No other option is acceptable.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:37AM

...any MOVE forward...

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03 Dec 2011 2:45AM

We've been discussing the best way for him to leave her. I just don't know how this will all pan out.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:58AM

Been discussing? The only thing to decide on is whether he tells her it's because of you they're breaking up or stays mum on that matter. There's no other discussion to be had. He sits her down and does it. Honestly, I don't think you need advice at this point, you need a crash helmet. You're not going to stop seeing him no matter what is said here, I think that's obvious enough. And the last post has a point also, your reputation, if you are concerned about it, could be trashed by either or both of these people. Spite, betrayal, immaturity, resentment, all of them are very powerful motivators. Tread lightly.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 1:59AM

If he's doing it with you then he obviously isn't into your bff, he shouldn't keep up the charade. Also, don't end up getting yourself hurt over this guy too, if he's willing to go behind her back with you, who knows what he'll hide behind yours.

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03 Dec 2011 2:17AM

What's stupid is that I know I'm walking right into this trap, but I'm too enthralled to turn around.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:27AM

Seriously? You KNOW this is a bad idea, you KNOW that it will most likely end up a shambles, you KNOW you're going to lose a friend, you KNOW he's not trustworthy. For fucks sake get a hold of yourself woman.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:02AM

If you value your friendship more you should not hide things.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:46AM

If this is truly the best sex of your life, then I'd say, sure, go for it.

BUT, do it knowing that it's going to eventually blow up in your face in a pretty major way.

The sex based relationship with this guy won't last.

When your "BFF" finds out and she will, you're friendship will be over.

You will then have at least one and probably both of them going around telling your mutual friends what a slut you are.

Again, if the sex is really that great and you're willing to suffer the consequences, then have fun, but at least stop and think about the consequences beforehand.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 3:13AM

She find out
She tells her friends
He realizes you aren't what he though and it was actually just the sneaking around and thought of sleeping with a friend that was the real turn on.
He leaves you and gets back with her, they actually had something unlike you two
You are alone with no friends.
End story.
Have fun.

Bet he gots a small cock too, to top it all off. Lol I just don't understand people.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 3:31AM

You sound like you're in the "early part of the relationship" stage, the stage where everything seems perfect.
But what about a bit latter, when you start to think about this guy and try pick faults with your relationship? we all do it! we weigh up the pro's and con's of staying with someone. that's the time when you'll probably start suspecting he might cheat on you and do the same to you as he did to his "ex" girlfriend.
If he can cheat on her, he can cheat on you.

Best of luck to you

and those like you!!!

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 6:16AM

Tell him you have a "three year rule". You don't date your BFF's ex until at least three years have passed.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 6:25AM

I shagged my girlfriends friend after she cheated on me. Should have seen it coming though since i betrayed a friend to be with her in the first place ... Anyway, the point is none of us are that close anymore and i miss them all.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 1:58PM

First, you have to admit that you are shit for a friend.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:15PM

Look, everyone is going at this the wrong way. Here's what you should do. Get them both over, let him fuck you in the ass while you lick her cunt. That way, everyone wins, you get fucked, he gets two pussies and assholes to fuck and she A.) keeps her boyfriend, and B.) gets her cunt eaten by her best friend. Win/win/win.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:21PM

Okay, so ignoring the asssholes above and such, I think you have two main options. One might enable you to keep some form of friendship-- or at least, not hurt her so much-- whereas the other will get you in a relationship sooner.

Rather than giving an ultimatum, just have him break up with her. Then date him immediately. Obviously, you destroy your friend but you have him sooner. Or, have him break up with her, and then later, a few months from then, get together with him. This will probably hurt her less. Just make sure he doesn't mention he was cheating with you. And he doesn't have to make a cold cut, either. He could slowly just end up a crappier boyfriend, until she isn't happy, then he can break up with her explaining how he just isn't a good match for her anymore, they're too different, etc. Make it sound like he's doing her a favor (without being an ass).

I know the latter strategy to work out well and hurt them a lot less, because that's what I do to end my relationships with women if they're still happily involved in it.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:24PM

Look honey. I will tell you the real truth. You will NEVER be able to trust him. you don't want this guy. I GUARANTEE you, if he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:38PM

Yep. And if you hold that against him, you're a hypocrite.

Me personally, I don't have a problem with cheaters, as expecting people to be monogamous when it isn't in their programming is foolish. I've cheated and I've fucked women who were cheating on someone else. The difference though is that I never once expected any of them to be faithful to me, and anyone that actually has cheated on me has never cost me one second of lost sleep.

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Anonymous

03 Dec 2011 2:34PM

You're doing it just to get off. So keep getting off. If you get her drunk and eat her out, she'll love you too! Then tell her to keep it secret.. lol

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05 Dec 2011 1:18AM

I already have. Lol.

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05 Dec 2011 1:19AM

Should I upload a picture of him so you guys know why I'm doing this?

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Anonymous

05 Dec 2011 10:32AM

I think you should arrange a threesome. So you end up sleeping with both on a regular basis. Win Win Win.

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