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19 Jan 2014 5:16PM

Yeah I hear ya. My girlfriend is a real good girl type. My last relationship the sex was great but she was a little crazy and unpredictable and got me into some undesirable shit. This time I went for a nice bring-home-to-the-family type and she is gorgeous, everybody says she looks like Jennifer Lawrence and she kinda does but honestly she is hotter. But she is very picky in bed. She is the same as your wife, she loves it and always wants sex but it is never good for me. She gets mad at me that we hardly ever fuck. She doesn't do anal at all, she only likes a couple positions, won't do my fav which is doggy because she says it hurts somehow. She lets me cum on her which I always do but not on her face. She almost never blows me, which is part of the problem as my last GF always blew me to get me going, and nice long 20 minute blows too, and let me slap my cock all over her mouth and face and do light face fucking. She also sucked my nuts like a champ while I jerked off and she really really enjoyed it. Anyway it is hard to go from that to a sweet girl who is good for you but doesn't know how to fuck. I am the envy of so many guys but they have no idea that we barely even fuck. Another issue for me is that she is very very dry and I have a rather large cock and no matter how much foreplay it takes 10 minutes of engineering and lube and spit to stuff my cock in there every time. At first it was kind of hot since she is so tight but now it is just really annoying. Other GF's would get wet as fuck after just a couple minutes of foreplay and I could just rip off their clothes and fuck them anywhere in the house. Because of how long it takes with my current GF she always wants to do it lying down in bed. Basically she has no desire for interesting or exciting or uncomfortable sex. It is the same every time. I always cum, but it just isn't fun. I actually prefer to jerk off to porn. I like fake tits in porn and my GF hates this since hers are big but real and have the natural sag they should. I don't even want her to have fakes, I just like it in fantasy, but she gets jealous that I would rather jack it to fakes than fuck her. She also refuses to shave her cunt bald. She will trim but won't shave it. I like my pussies bald. She complains we don't have enough sex but doesn't get the hint that she needs to change so that I will enjoy it. I feel like she is selfish in bed. It is really hard at this point to be blunt about what I want her to do, but I guess it is partly my fault for not being more demanding. She is just such an innocent sweetheart with no dirty side and it is tough to say "well I would fuck you if you let me choke you with my cock", or something like that.

Like you said, it is just so difficult that it is easier to just find some slut like I did and have a nice anonymous fuck. Sometimes it is hard to pin down exactly why some people suck at sex. I feel like maybe it is just the attitude or the general enthusiasm or something. Really sweet girls you want to marry just aren't good fucks. I don't know how it makes sense but this girl I fucked last night was instantly better in bed than my GF. She really wanted to fuck me and she did all the work and went for it. She was super wet right away and I could just ram it in. She showed how much she loved it with her body language and words and moans, and I could tell right away that she would be very easily mold-able if I continued to fuck her more times. I could probably get her to do anything I wanted within 10 fucks. And somehow her ditsy bubbly personality just worked so well for sex. She is the exact opposite of my GF in so many ways and it was a huge turn on. I really don't know what to do. I wouldn't want to seriously date a girl like that but I don't know if I can stay with my current GF with bad sex. I wish I could have one GF/wife for friendship/companionship, and one for the amazing sex and excitement. I think this must be the dilemma of many men. I still think it is so weird that sex with my long time and loving GF is so mechanical and bad and was so good the first time with this other girl.

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19 Jan 2014 6:03PM

2nd poster here again, wifes in the shower. I think it comes down to stubbornness my wife was feisty and I liked that about her but she also has this hidden set of guidelines nothing short of epic amounts of pressure on my side will get her to see otherwise at at the end of it I feel like a jerk. She cums real easy, she has great orgasms, she does moan but the sex is vanilla and a 6/10 for me. I go the etc mile for her in bed, I hold off my orgasm, I do it her way, but she wants me to do all the work while she just rides my cock. Yes we have sex, yes its everyday for the last 7 years, yes she blows me no swallow (yet she's started giving me a guilt trip for it now if that's all I want), yes she does anal once in a while (she loves it but the next day I get the guilt trip). On paper she does everything, day to day sex is good enough for her but in practice I need more to ring my bell than a lousy suck, pumping her for 15mins in missionary and cuming.

Since we've been dating (now married)) I have had few different girls. One a younger 20ish girl my first cheat and it was so eye opening she blew me right, fucked legs open body relaxed, she even did anal twice first time really must hurt but she still did a 2nd time same night and she was fine after it. I'd forgotten how satisfying great sex is. 2nd was an old swinger and that story was pretty fucking weird but she fucked like a champ and gave me the best doggy, she had a cunt like a vice, rode me really hard and I felt I could do anything without get told off like a small child. Last one was a chav milf who was an old friend of a friend I knew she was horny and naughty in bed, my mutual friend told me since she was divorced she hadn't gotten any in 2 years her confidence was at a low and tbh I need to sexual pick up too so I talked to her out the blue on FB wasn't easy she knew I was married but she caved in when I told her it's a sex nothing more and it was great shame her family are all white trash or I'd visit more often. It's my treat once a year when she visits her parents it's a shame it had to be that way I wish she do it but I'm not going to beg someone every time she gives me a guilt trip or says no I just think I'll get it somewhere else next time bitch :P

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20 Jan 2014 12:07AM

OP again, yeah it sounds like you have it a little better than me, but still pretty boring overall. I know what you mean, I feel like I do everything and since she has only ever slept with 2 other guys she doesn't realize how good she has it. She seems to think that the guy is supposed to do everything including initiate all sexual activity and do all the physical work. Whenever I get her to try doing the work or taking more initiative it last like 5 minutes and then she wants to just switch back to normal routine.

Any other girl I have fucked says it is the best sex ever (I know some of them prob just say that, but most of the time I can tell they are truly very surprised by the quality of sex). My GF always says she enjoyed it but somehow she just doesn't seem like she does. She doesn't make it obvious with her body language and movements, or loud moans or anything. I also can't tell if she orgasms which is weird because with most girls I can tell, even though she says she does multiple times during sex. I feel like she is really inhibited somehow, but it is weird because she wasn't raised by conservatives or anything. I have a guess that one of her best friends is the same (call her K). K was dating a guy for 6 years and then found out he was cheating on her with her own other best friend. I saw a picture of the other girl and she isn't hot at all, but decent body. K is super hot though so it is surprising. My guess is that K is also lousy in bed and that this other girl knows how to fuck and buddy got tired of shitty sex. I really can't pinpoint why my GF is bad in bed. I would be happy to never cheat if I could fix this. With her it is less that I have to beg for things and more that she seems reluctant to learn new things and try new things when she is so happy with the same ol'. She wouldn't understand some of my sexual preferences and would think it was degrading. She never seems to want to do anything where she isn't also getting off. I need to be able to do what I want with a girl during sex and I will reward her for it if she complies. Part of the problem is the way we started dating, I was looking for a good sweet predictable girl. I didn't try anything too dirty for a while and then it just became hard to suddenly reveal that I wanted much dirtier sex. Most other girls I just treated them like whores right off the bat because I didn't care about them or their reaction. I know my GF too well too dominate her that much in bed. She might like it once she does it but I know she would be against it if I tried it right now. She is very against anything she considers violent or aggressive and always wants really cute lovie-dovie sex, although she does let me pound away fast and hard when I need to cum. She doesn't like play fighting or anything like that, so it is very hard to be rough in bed without upsetting her. I think next time she complains about sex I just need to come out and admit what I need and that I need her to try it. I just don't see how it will ever be good because she will always be doing it all forced and awkward instead of just wanting it that way. I like messy sloppy sex and I can't even imagine her doing it like that. I think I am in too deep in to turn her into the sex slut I need.

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03 Feb 2014 4:32PM

If a girl who has self-confidence and a lot of boundaries is inhibited in bed, I think that it is because she doesn't feel respected out of the bedroom or she is afraid that her bedroom behavior will represent who she is outside of the bedroom.

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