Ok so this is my first post, and by the seems of things a bit of a lame one I will admit. I've been a ML addict for quite a while, uploaded a few images & videos of other peoples stuff and made a few gallerys of stuff I love, but never put anything up that was actually personal.

I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with, it's my place and she stays over most weeks. I live in a small part of a quiet country but I'm from a large town. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were great. 2 years in and after moving into a new place at uni a new girl, Jemma, moved in, and after a few months we had a serious affair (even to the point where she'd let me fuck her anally without any concerns. All the time I stayed with Lisa, and I felt bad for cheating on her like that, but I couldn't help myself for wanting Jemma. I moved back home from uni, and cut things off with Jemma after Lisa broke things off with me. I made the big effort and made a declaration to Lisa that I wanted to stay with her and meant to marry her. That was 4/5 years ago, and I stayed faithful as I wanted things to work out. I moved back to the opposite side of the country to be with her, and took a job down here to be with her.

About 2 months after taking this job I met a girl (Kerry) who used to have my job (running a bar/ hotel) before she went away travelling. She came back to start working while she decided on her next step in life, and the first time I met her I was having a meal there with Lisa. She walked over to me to ask for help with some problem they were having, and my jaw dropped. This Kerry was stunning. I dropped the meal with my GF to help Kerry out with this problem, and was instantly drawn to her. We spent 2 years working alongside each other, flirty banter rolling off our lips like there was no tomorrow and no consequences. The beauty of it being at work was that Lisa was never there to see it. Nothing ever happened between us, and Kerry took a job working on 5* international cruise liners. She'd be away for 4 months at a time, and back for 2 months or so. I never felt anything for Kerry beyond a severe lust towards her flesh, but whenever I was with Lisa it just disappeared because I love Lisa enough.

Lisa is that sort of girl that is lovely, seriously homely, and has never really moved away from her family farm. She has an awful habit of dragging me down a bit with little remarks about things I like or want to do, by simply disapproving of it, not that I really pay any attention to her protests but I still hear them. I know her whole family (after 7 years not suprising, since I lived with her immediate family for a year when I first started my new job), and they all love me.

Kerry came back some time last year, and left early September and it was like she'd never been away. We went straight back into the flirting, but working in hospitality you sort of expect that behaviour, and she's got that flirty personality that I just passed it off as her being herself. One night after she finished and sat drinking at the bar I drove her home, and when she went to kiss me goodnight on the cheek she tried to kiss me. I wanted Kerry to kiss me, but out of some sense of honour I stopped it, and told her that it was because of Lisa that it couldn't happen. She got out of the car accepting this, and I didn't see her again properly until about 4 months ago when she came home on an extended leave.

I came back to work after 4 weeks off, and she was back there. Same Kerry as always, and damned near every male in the village telling me how stunning she is, like I needed any reminder! We were back to the flirting, the occaisional innocent touch as we passed behind each other but nothing untoward. She refused to give me a goodnight kiss on the cheek when I took her home, until one night I called her up on it. From then on she'd ask for a lift home, kiss me goodnight and that would be that... We had our laughs, and we get on like such a goddamned house on fire that I felt like we were back to how we were early last year. We even played a joke on a customer, telling him that we had gotten engaged, and that I'd proposed to her in the supermarket. She made the whole story up herself, and all I had to do was go along with it. That night we had a few drinks behind the bar, and since I'd had too much to drive she told me in no uncertain terms that I would be staying at hers, in the spare room. We snook back into hers, she went to kiss me goodnight on the cheek as usual, and I felt her almost trying to kiss me again. I ignored it and went to sleep in the spare room as I didn't want to get back into that situation again (I didn't even know at this point if she'd remembered what she'd done last year).

Then last friday night happened. Now bear in mind, Kerry has haunted my thoughts since that first kiss. I dwelt on that attempted kiss, even until that Friday. Kerry and I were working behind the bar, she had a few drinks more than me and I took her home as per usual. We got outside her house and we went for the usual peck on the cheek and again she goes to kiss me. Now being as crazy about Kerry as I am, and after kicking myself for nearly a year about not accepting the last kiss I uttered "For fucks sake..." and kissed her back. After a half hour of making out, me taking her clothes off and winding up rubbing her clit through her panties she stopped me, and it got a little awkward. She told me it couldn't happen as I was "smitten" with Lisa, and that she had felt like such a fool for trying to kiss me the first time. Also that she had liked me back then, and after the liquid courage had tried to kiss me because of that. I told her that I had made my bed and that I supposed I ought to lie in it (with Lisa). She reminded me that I'm only 27, and we had a stilted sort of conversation, with her getting out of the car telling me that I needed to sort my shit out and not just for her sake.

I got back to my house with Lisa in bed at about 5am, with her all lined up to hostess my family around the area for the weekend. I spent all weekend with her slightly grumpy for no apparent reason to her, though it was really because I didn't know what the hell to make of the Friday night/ Saturday morning. This girl I had tried to convince myself that I didn't want had made another move on me, and I simply couldn't stop myself a second time... She's THAT hot! Lisa took my infernal family out for the weekend and did her best to take care of them, all the time I'm wishing to see Kerry again.

Tuesday comes around and Lisa decides that she's going back to the farm for the week as she needs to catch up on the work she's missed. Her self confidence is low in general, and I know she would be beyond distraught if she had any idea of what had happened Friday night, never mind the ensuing Tuesday night.

Kerry had arranged to have a few leaving drinks on the Tuesday night, as she was going away to a wedding today. One of my absolute best friends Barry was invited, though by a circumstance I wound up back at work on my own so they all came into my bar to be around me. Kerry, her sister, a friend of hers and another girl from work. Barry I know has a big thing for Kerry, as has most of the male population of the village. All of them sat the other side of the bar with Barry having a great laugh, but me with eyes only for Kerry. It got to 1am and I closed the bar, Kerry a total clusterfuck with drink after doing a few body shots off the other girl from work and a couple off me.

I went downstairs to cash up for the night, Kerry comes down to ask if she can have another round of shots even though we're after the license. I tell her of course she can, we chat a while before she says to me "Ok, so I'm going to go back upstairs because I want to kiss you right now, and it's bad". I tell her "Sometimes people do bad things" and she walks right over, sits on my lap and kisses the hell out of me. I've had enough of fighting the urge to get my hands on her and went back for her. I'm half watching the CCTV cameras to make sure no-one comes downstairs to catch us, and proceed to heat things up a bit. I eventually stop her, tell her to get her ass back upstairs and pour that round of shots out before some-one suspects something. She goes back up, I finish off cashing up and she's back downstairs for another bottle just as I'm putting the nights takings in the safe. I grab her again and kiss her, which she tells me "You think this is a game, but it won't last", and after a short making out she goes back upstairs.
I get upstairs, she leads me out the back of the bar out of sight and starts making out with me again, obviously I have no compunction about it by now and am eager just to get my hands on her.

Eventually we get everybody out for gone 2am, and I am told I'm giving her a lift home, to which we get in the car and we're instantly back on each other. We go for a drive and wind up out in the middle of nowhere, parked up in a layby on a tiny little country lane. We start talking about what happened, and how she's irritated that I have a GF, but that I kissed her. She tries to tell me that I must've known she's liked me for such a long time. I tell her that I couldn't have known as she seems to be like that with everyone, and that until she tried to kiss me on the Friday night I didn't know if it was just the alcohol that was what had made her try to kiss me the first time. She understood that, and we talked about how she had wanted me for such a long time, but thought herself such a fool for trying to kiss me the first time. She then told me that she's never really had a relationship with anyone as she has people she fucks, and people she likes, and never the twain shall meet. Until me. She really likes me for myself, my personality and the way we just suit each other, and obviously in a sexual way. I tell her about how much I've wanted her since I first laid eyes upon her. We talk then about her personality, as she likes new toys all the time; new gadgets, new clothes, new stuff all the time. I wanted to know whether it was just the thrill of a new thing, and that once played with and done with that it goes back on the shelf and is never wanted again, as that's what I don't want to become. She tells me she's not even sure if that's what it is, compounded by the fact that I belong to someone else and that I'm supposed to be unobtainable, but also that she wants more than anything to be with me. She also says that she intends to spend the remainder of the next 10 years working on Cruise ships.
She then says that she's not sure if I'm essentially just an itch that she has to scratch and that it would get me out of her system. I tell her "There's only one way to find out", to which she plants herself on me again. This time we kiss and kiss and eventually wind up getting naked in my car, I frig her off to the tune of 2 courses of multiple orgasms committing every moment to memory in case it never happens again. We don't fuck, but after eating her out and hearing her come so many times the 2 hours we spend at it become too much. We get dressed and I take her home, with her telling me that she wants to fuck me on the bosses desk. Kerry tells me she's going to kiss me again before she leaves to go back to the house, and we part for the day.

Then yesterday I knew I had to see her again before she goes away for another 4 months, and that I had to see if when she was sober she still felt the same. I pick her up after going for a meal with Barry, talking of nothing but her (and how she's said to him that on her wedding night she intends to perform the Selma Hyek dancer scene out of From Dusk Til Dawn for her husband!). We go for a drive and park up outside where I go to the gym, and we talk shit for an hour or so with me just resting my hands on her legs. She tells me she had better get back as she's done no packing, at which point I decide that I have to taste her lips again. We make out for another half hour at least, and we stop because she's leaving in a few hours. I take her home again, she kisses me passionately on her driveway and says goodbye.

She's as cold and dispassionate about people as I can be, and this makes it hard to read precisely what's going on... but it also makes her such a fucking ball-breaker!

I guess I'm posting this because I need some feedback on what I should do, I still love Lisa but I'm not sure that I can love her that much as I'm willing to do all that with Kerry? But if I'm not going to see Kerry for 2/3rds of the year? And what if I am just an itch that has been scratched, is it worth throwing away 7 years with a girl that is still devoted to me?

What would you guys do?

PS- thanks for reading.... I know it's fucking dull!

Motherless admins/mods, do you have some kind of image-blocking software that could possibly stop this fucking picture from being posted in every third board thread? really, really tired of seeing it. thank you.

Multiple server errors have prevented me from including this pic, but you've all seen it, it's that fucking "REPORTED" picture.

I have only ever creampied one girl. And it was someone else's girlfriend.

So here's the story: Back when I was a senior in high school, I played football with a guy that wanted to see his freshman girlfriend get fucked by another guy. I wasn't exactly "best buds" with the guy, but we had been teammates for the last 4 years and I guess that was enough to make him feel comfortable asking such a thing.

His girlfriend was the type of girl that was extremely sexy in an innocent, naive type of way. The type that would get hit on because of her sheer beauty (which I will get to in a minute), but the kind that guys wouldn't pursue too hard because her lack of overt sexuality made her seem like a prude, and a waste of time for those looking for a quick lay (which is most of us guys, especially at that age). In fact, you wouldn't even expect her to know the first thing about sex, which actually wasn't too far from the truth. According to her boyfriend, he had only just taken her virginity a few months before, and he was attracted to her for much the same reason as I was in the sense that he loved the idea of corrupting her innocence.

Now back then, this really wasn't something that was as appealing to me as you might think. I had only been with a few other women, none of them were ever that much younger than me, and I felt a little guilty about this plan to "corrupt" an innocent girl. This all changed, however, when he showed me the blurry camera phone picture of his girl sitting up naked, spread eagle on her pink bed sheets with the most embarrassed look on her face. I knew this girl was beautiful before, but considering she never went out of her way to look very sexual or wear anything revealing, I was stunned at the body she had been hiding all this time. The first thing that floored me was the sheer size of her tits. For a girl that hadn't even turned 15 yet, she was 5'2", no more than 115 lbs., and was sporting 34Cs that seemed to defy gravity. Couple that with a tight body; a nice plump, firm ass; and a gorgeous, shaved slit; and I was sold.

In the interest of keeping this from getting too long, I'll skip ahead a bit. But essentially I told him I couldn't do it with him watching, at least not the first time; it would be too weird. He agreed it was fine for us to be alone as long as we video taped the whole thing so he could watch it later. We ended up at her house after school, with the place to ourselves. She seemed very nervous, and started telling me how she hated that her boyfriend wanted her to do this. I immediately felt guilty and said we shouldn't. That I would never want to do anything she wasn't comfortable with. With that statement, she looked me deep in the eyes, jumped on me, and kissed me harder and more passionately than I had ever been kissed before. We made out for what felt like 20 minutes. The kiss itself was so sexual that it was almost satisfying by itself. She finally got up, turned the camera on, placed it on the dresser, and seductively walked back over to me.

"Take me. I wan't you. Right. Now," she said climbing onto my lap and getting closer to my ear in a whisper with each word. With that, I couldn't take it anymore and I ravaged her. Clothes were thrown about; I devoured her perfect, pink pussy; and she sucked my cock like a pro, never very deep, but putting in the effort to gag and continue to try for more. It was perfect. When it finally came time to fuck her, I reached for a condom and she stopped me. She told me to just fuck her without it, she wanted to feel me. I fucked her in every position imaginable and she seemed grateful for every thrust. I finally ended up on top of her, her legs wrapped tightly around my back, and my arm under her lower back and ass pulling her up into me. In turn she was pulling herself up into my cock with her hips and legs. She was working my dick and grinding into me just as much as I was fucking her back in return. I couldn't take it anymore and told her I had to pull out and cum. She clenched me tighter with her legs and begin to buck up into me harder. I thought maybe she didn't hear me and began to panic I wouldn't pull out in time. I reiterated that I was "GOING TO CUM!".

With that, she looked me directly in the eyes and responded, "So do it then." That was it. I began to cum like I had never cum before. Squirt, after squirt, after squirt; I filled her up while her body convulsed and we came in rhythm with each other. With her clinging to my body as hard as she could. Eventually we both collapsed onto each other and lay there motionless for at least ten minutes before either of us moved.

I remember finally sliding out of her and watching my cum pour out onto her pink bed sheets. I was a much better image than the blurry camera phone pic that didn't include my cum dripping out of her and pooling between her thighs. It was beautiful. We jumped in the shower, and cleaned off, and I headed out before her parents got home.

The next day, I got a call from her boyfriend. I expected it to be him telling me how insanely hot everything was and to thank me for helping out. Instead, he was furious, yelling something about how I was never supposed to cum in her, etc, etc. As I came to find out, she had apparently NEVER let him even fuck her without a condom, let alone cum in her. And apparently she wasn't big on sucking his dick either. Could have fooled me based on the exceptional head she gave me.

They ended up breaking up immediately after and she told me that was really her plan. That she was over him and she had fallen for me that night. The rest of the football season was a little tense to say the least, especially since I spent the rest of my senior year fucking and filling this girl with cum AT LEAST 5 times a week until I finally left for college.

We still keep in touch some 8 years later but no longer live near each other (multiple states away). I have seen her a few random times over the years here and there and fucked her, and she swears I am still the only guy that she has ever let cum inside her. Who knows if that's true or not, but what I do know is it is still the most passionate sex I have ever had in my life and she is still insanely beautiful and kept much of her reserved, innocent charm. If we lived closer, I'd probably make her my queen in heartbeat.

Sorry if that story got a little long. I've never retold that story before in such revealing detail, and I guess I got carried away in the memory. I hope you all found it enjoyable.

Heißer Sex mit vielen Männern
Tabulos ungeschützte Besamung
Mit Fremdbesamung meine ich, dass fremde Männer Sperma in die Muschi spritzen. Ich liebe es, sexuelle Fantasien wahr werden zu lassen. Richtig heiß gefickt und hemmungslos benutzt zu werden. Ein Schwanz, der mehrmals tief in die Muschi gestoßen wird, erzeugt ein Gefühl sexueller Glückseligkeit. Bei einem AO-Gangbang wird die Muschi hart gefickt und durch mehrfache Besamungen zum Überlaufen mit Sperma gebracht. Das macht Spaß. Bei AO (alles ohne) wird man nackt beritten und tief besamt. Mein Gefühl: 5 bis 7 Männer sind optimal. Bei diesem Gruppensex wird extrem besamt und mit Sperma vollgepumpt. Wer es einmal erlebt hat, möchte immer wieder von vielen Schwänzen gefickt und abgefüllt werden. Die Schwänze dringen schnell tief in den Tunnel ein und aus, bis tief im Inneren warme und heftige Spermienspritzer zu spüren sind.
Eine Fremdbesamung ohne Gummi ist gesundheitsgefährdend. Die Vorlage eines aktuellen schriftlichen ärztlichen Attestes ist zwingend erforderlich. (Das Bild ist lizenzfrei)

Hot sex with lots of men
Unprotected insemination without taboos
By foreign insemination I mean that strange men inject sperm into the pussy. I love making sexual fantasies come true. To be fucked really hot and used uninhibitedly. A cock thrust deep into the pussy multiple times creates a feeling of sexual bliss. In an bareback gangbang, the pussy is fucked hard and made to overflow with sperm through multiple inseminations. That is fun. With AO (everything without) you are mounted naked and deeply inseminated. My feeling: 5 to 7 men are optimal. This group sex involves extreme insemination and pumping full of sperm. Anyone who has experienced it once will want to be fucked and filled by many cocks again and again. The cocks quickly enter and exit deep into the tunnel until warm and violent spurts of sperm are felt deep inside.
Third-party insemination without rubber is dangerous to health. Submission of a current written medical certificate is mandatory. (The image is royalty-free)

Isn't there an admin or someone who can stop people from posting multiple images on recent images?? I mean I luv new pics but sshappy has loaded 30 plus pages of just asians. If I want to see that much asians, I'll join a group. Its overkill and spam!!!

Regarding sorting/organizing galleries- just a thought/observation- Not a complaint- Motherless is absolutely incomparable in my opinion and I tell myself all the time that I have impeccable taste- that being said- Is there possibly any way to include in the "actions" drop down menu a way to "move" an image to another gallery rather than "add" it - I would like to be able to organize my galleries better but if I want to move an image, or several, from one gallery to another, I then have to go back and locate the images in the original gallery and delete them so I don't have multiple copies lying around. It is somewhat easier on a dedktop because I can just keep both windows open, but, as the process is not "instantaneous" its hit and miss and gets too frustrating to make any big progress, and is even more difficult on a mobile device. On the same subject- is there any possible way to add some function where we could arrange/rearrange images in different order within a gallery-ie:drag and drop or highlight and move- again the only way I've found is to recreate the gallery, then re add the images in reverse order and then go back and delete the original copies- and since its not instantaneous and sort of hit or miss, there's no way to tell if it worked, without closing any/all open Motherless windows, then reopening and going back in to check. Again, not being a whiner- just an idea that might allow a contributor to participate more easily in improving the end product. - I know I would definitely post a lot more frequently if the user interface was a little more fluid-- Thanks-Frost

There is an idiot spamming vids, using multiple accounts to repost the same shit day after day, multiple times a day.

I never forget an image, so this bozo sticks out of the pack like a neon sign in the thumbnails.

Most of the accounts registered on March 26th this year. Here is the shortlist (not kidding) and you'll see what I mean:

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/LustyVanessa

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/HotStudJared

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/BustySally

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/SassyStacey

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/SexStephanie

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/NastyFriday

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/HelenHunter

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/RobertaPounded

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/FredaFire

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/SilkySkin

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/EarlyFuck

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/CumOnMyShirt

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/MaryJoyce

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/HotLieutenant

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/AndreaLike

http://mlps.pika777.eu.org/m/GoodMoodToday

How to post multiple images im one board post?

Well, this is the only place I can tell this so I thought I would.

The most wonderful and frightening and somewhat unusual thing happened to me the other day.

I am a married man. I love my wife dearly but she does not fulfil my needs. She deals with depression and she doesn't let me touch her and she almost never lets me kiss her [passionately]. On top of this, she has gained a lot of weight. We did not have sex until we were married. And by then she had gained a lot more weight than when we were dating and she has steadily gained weight ever since. I still love her and treat her great but she has been dealing with a really low self image and doesn't like to be liked.

This is the confession. Throughout our marriage, practically whenever I could, I would run off to strip clubs. I am not in the best shape but I am not overly large. I am clinically obese but I am not huge. I have done these strip club binges a number of times. Now I always read about people getting blowjobs and other things at the clubs but this has never happened to me. One drunk stripper tried to take me home and I bailed. She was wasted and she had some kind of informal relationship with the strip club. I am today not sure how it all worked. But she told me to meet her outside and that I would be paying her all night. However, I would not cheat on my wife.

This brings me to this latest incident. Like I said, I have done this many times before but, the other day, I traveled to a series of strip clubs. I went with a girl for a few topless dances and she said to me. If you buy a private room "anything goes". Now when you hear anything goes [at least in a strip club] anything does not go. She let me touch her, which was great. She was pretty good at the lap dancing. And she had an absolutely incredible body. And she smelled wonderful.

Anyway, I am very respectful of these women. I do not break boundaries. And I make sure things are alright before I do them. In the private room, I did something stupid. She removed all her clothes and I asked if I could remove my pants. She said that was alright. Honestly, at this point, it was just to make it feel better but maybe that was a sign for her that I wanted to go further. She started grinding me and eventually my penis came out of my boxers. I stopped her. She said it was alright she wasn't going to put it in. I told her that I was married and I have no intention to cheat on my wife. She continued grinding and working my penis. Then she did the unexpected, she got on her knees and started to give me the best blowjob I have ever had. She was masterful. She worked the tip and even deep throated which I had never felt before. She was literally trying to make me cum. Honestly, I should have let her but I stopped her because I felt that was too far. She said I was the first person to ever say "no". Maybe if I had let her this next part wouldn't have happened.

The private time wasn't over. I was loving it. I was loving her. What was not to love? She got back on top and started grinding and working me over. I told her I didn't want it to go to far. She again assured me that it would not go to far. And it did. She slipped me inside her and started moving up and down. This was raw. No condom or anything and it felt amazing. I didn't mean it to go that far but all of a sudden I was fucking this stripper. And for the first time, physically cheating on my wife. I eventually stopped her before I came and said I didn't want to go any further. I couldn't. I love my wife. It felt amazing but my brain was saying to stop over and over. I just couldn't do that to her. Even though I had already gone to far. I fucked up.

She offered to get a condom and finish but I refused. I never did climax with her but that doesn't even seem to matter at this point. I cheated none the less. and since I went that far, I almost wonder if I just shouldn't have finished it. If I would have let the blowjob finish, then I would have probably been done then. But since it went so far, a part of me really wishes I had gone all the way.

I did get to do something I don't get to do much, if ever, at home. I love pussy. I love going down on girls. As long as they are clean and healthy, I could spend a lot of time down there. So I asked the stripper if I could. She said "of course, all girls like that." And I did. I ate her until her moans stiffled in, what I hope, was a real orgasm.

I did, at one time, ask her if she was clean. It would have been too late at that point anyway but I did ask and she said of course. I would like to think she told the truth but only time will tell.

In the end, I had unprotected sex with a beautiful stripper; got a great BJ, and gave some great lip service [I hope] but now I wonder how, if ever, I should tell my wife especially if I have a STD or STI. And I worry in fucking her, I fucked everything else up. Again, I never meant to have sex. I even told the stripper "no" multiple times but I feel like this isn't going to help me when push comes to shove.

If I don't have an STD or STI, I will probably never tell her. And that is probably best.

Browsing the new images pages is a thankless task when users upload hundreds of images at a time. Please group multiple uploads together in the browse views.

Gentlemen : Things Your Gay Pal Would Like You To Know (But Never Says)
A Weekly Editorial Column aimed at guys from gays (well, one gay... me)

Week #2 : Male Sex Appeal

It's an unusual quirk of western civilization that part of maturing as a woman is learning how to be (or not be) sexually appealing. The media is constantly throwing images of what a sexy woman looks like and how sexy women talk and act at us constantly. Mothers are telling their daughters which clothes are �a little too old� and which they can wear out... Whether we mean to or not, we do a very good job of educating females on how their bodies and behavior generate sex appeal.
Men? Not so much. At best, most men go through life thinking that being visibly fit is the key to sex appeal. Some might also throw in that being 'friendly' or 'close' helps. Other than that I think most men, if they are honest, will concede they don't really know what makes one guy really appealing and what undermines a guy's chances of hooking up.

Well, in the spirit of helping, I'd like to share some of my own observations about male sexuality.

Physical fitness definitely is part of male sexuality. In most cases, being visibly fit does get you reactions... but it's not the only part and not even the largest part of male sexuality. Neither is facial attractiveness. I'm sure any girl can tell you about a few guys they've met who were physically very gifted but who just didn't �have a spark�, or guys who maybe were doughy or not the prettiest, but who made them go gooey inside. Let's take a look at some things often overlooked in this crazy mating game we play:

Body Language � Your Mouth Says �Date Me.� But Your Body Says �I'm Worthless�?
Body language is a complicated subject. Basically, every time you come in contact with other people, you're sending signals in the way you carry yourself, your expressions, the way your eyes move and a hundred thousand other cues. Even though you aren't aware of it, there's a part of the human brain with the sole job of taking what your eyes, ears and nose are telling you and breaking it down. As a result, even an Adonis can send signals that say �I'm Undateable�. Some common things that make a huge difference to how others see you:

Smile � People are drawn to happiness. Some part of our brain believes that happiness is contagious. Multiple studies have shown that when you smile, other people instinctively smile back, report feeling better, and actually move closer to you without realizing it. The reverse is true of blank-face or frowning; you can make people unconsciously repulsed by your -lack- of happiness. When you catch yourself expressionless or distracted, focus on holding a soft smile and watch how rapidly it changes people's view of you.
Eye Contact � Animals, humanity included, use eye contact to establish dominance and rank in the herd. When you fail to make eye contact, it sends a cue to those you are speaking to that says �I consider myself below or unworthy of you�. The simple act of making and holding eye contact as you talk and listen sends a powerful message that says �We are peers� and is a major part of creating a spark.
Nodding � For many people, it's natural to softly nod as you converse. This is another really powerful cue. By nodding as you talk, you are telling those watching you �I absolutely believe what I am saying.� This projects personal strength. By nodding as you listen, you are telling the speaker �I understand and agree with you; we think similarly.� This simple action can cause a stranger, by the end of a conversation, to want to stay in touch with you and to feel a personal connection.

Confidence � A chance at sex\relationship is not a favor being given to you.
I'm not going to try and tell you that thinking you're God's gift to humanity is going to get you laid. It's not true. On the other hand, if you walk into an encounter with a potential partner with the belief that they are doing you a favor by talking to you or considering you, it will impact your word choice, body language and tone and believe me, it will make it harder to see you as a potential love/sex match. You should practice walking into a first-encounter friendly, open and secure in the knowledge that you are WORTH getting close to. If this seems hard, practice faking it. Repeat it to yourself until you can say it without feeling like a fraud or wincing.

Speaking � Sometimes the most attractive organ you've got is your golden tongue
Just as what your body is doing is a complex part of attraction, so is what your voice is. Tone of voice, word selection and speaking habits all can influence how people hear and evaluate you. Here are some points on this:

Tone - Ever listened to someone drone on and on? It's anti-sexy. A good speaking voice should be light and fluid, rising and lowering like music, communicating your feelings, mood and intentions. A lot of people, as they become nervous, speed up and become monotone. Fight this urge, it will make you come across as shallow, wooden and uninteresting. Speak a little slower and really infuse your words with your mood.
Word Choice � Ever noticed how certain phrases just aren't very attractive to hear? �Excuse me� is a great example. It has an exhalation (Ex) followed by a hard dorsal velar (Kuh). These sorts of sounds grate on the ear, and it's part of why hearing someone repeatedly say �Excuse me� is so much more grating than hearing them use �Pardon me� or �I'm sorry�. Research into phoenetics has found an interesting quirk; certain sounds are sexy, regardless of the language. L, M, N and a silibant S all are considered erotic sounds. Using words that prominently feature these sounds soothe and even arouse people. On the other hand, F, X, K, D and T are just the opposite; they make people argumentative, aggitated and unresponsive. Weird, huh?
Questions � Ask questions. Give other people the chance to reveal as much about themselves as possible. Periodically include tidbits about yourself and your thoughts so that it doesn't come across an interrogation, but showing that you're interested in them and their lives is a great way to encourage them to become interested in you.

Last but not least, the most powerful tool in your arsenal as a male, bar none.....

Attraction : I'm So Into You For Being Into Me...
Huh, what's that? You're wondering what this means? One of the strongest aphrodisiacs known to mankind is when we know other people desire us. Let it leak a little... don't be afraid to say things like �I think you're really attractive� or �I saw you and thought 'I really want to get to know that person'�. I know, it sounds forward and that maybe isn't your style and what if they think you're a perv and.... trust me, if you can admit to being attracted without getting raunchy or fawning over them for ten minutes, it's a serious plus to your chances. Even if they aren't attracted to you in the slightest, hearing that you are attracted to them may cause them to immediately reconsider you. It's that powerful.

So, that about wraps it up for this little column. This is Yesm, telling you all the things your gay pal wishes you knew (but never tells you).