My wife thinks I impotent..I made out to her I am too. I love and adore my wife and our life and family and everything she does for me.. but we don’t have sex. And I don’t wanna have sex with her either.i just don’t fancy or want her that way anymore..it’s been about 3 yrs now.. we don’t even try no more but it’s me that doesn’t respond to her.. I don’t get hard for her at all. But I do for porn which is all I got right now..but I just make out I am impotent. I been to docs etc neurology there is no treatment etc cause I been through this so she understands my pretence problem...2 yrs ago I met an old girlfriend and I fucked her all afternoon.. felt really guilty but I needed that to prove something to myself..I don’t go far and I don’t meet women on the side.. although I wish I could. I need sex.. I do love my mrs and I don’t want to split or be without her as she is amazing .. but I so need to fuck a woman like I used to ? I dun wanna hurt anyone or lose what I got..what to do ? I see gorgeous looking girls everywhere who look sexy ..I wish I saw my mrs that way..since we married years ago she piled the weight on and looks ugly physically. I don’t wanna sound cruel.. what do I do? Please feel free to comment..

I have to confess a pretty 18 year old red head I've known for five years has been coming on to me. She knows I'm married to pretty red head and gingers turn me on. She comes over to me all the time, talking to me, flirting and making nice conversation. She knows I'm 40 but does not care. I think she is a great girl and yes sex has passed through my mind. I know she wants me. She looks at me all the time and smiles at me. Women hit on me all the time. I keep myself thin and tight from running every day and lifting weights. I don't know why she wants me. I would never want to hurt my wife or her but she does nit give up.

I am a girl in my 20s, 5ft 6 and 125 lbs, white.  I have a fantasy of masturbating on webcam for twisted perverts who either fantasize about rape or who have actually raped/hurt women.  I like talking to men who I should be afraid of, the danger is exciting. 

With all of the talk of drones and UAP, I'm prompted to write what happened to me on a lonely road a few years back.
I was driving, it was during the day and I saw something in the middle of the road just kind of hovering there. So of course I slowed my car down and stopped probably 100ft or more from this silverish saucer shaped craft. My car started acting strange and sputtered out, and with a brilliant flash of light there were these two beautiful blonde women standing in front of my car, seemingly caressing each other. They looked right at me, I felt nervous but also amazed at how gorgeous they were. I picked up my phone and snapped a picture - and that's all I remember. I have 4 hours of missing time - but I also have very erotic dreams of these two women which feel very real.
In the dream I'm on some kind of metal table, their hands glide over my body and I try to move but I can't. I can see and feel that I'm naked, and these two insanely beautiful women are smiling at me and softly caressing my skin. They lower some kind of device from the ceiling onto my privates - it's like a vacuum cleaner or something - but it instantly made me ejaculate in massive amounts. I came so hard it hurt - and I kept cumming, over and over. I was drained completely. They pulled the mechanism off of my cock, and one of them got a type of glass tube and collected the dribbling cum from the head of my dick.
I tried to speak to them, but I couldn't. In my own voice, in my head I heard "You're ok, relax," and I saw pictures of them kissing in my head too. So I kind of made the connection that they were a couple, that they were together - perhaps wives.
I laughed to myself, "lesbians in space abducting me..."
Then I got an image in my head of all three of us having an orgy, "we're not lesbians, we love all genders."
I got the impression from them that they could fuck me, but they wouldn't get pregnant from me if I came in them because my sperm somehow has to be "treated" in a certain way, but also that they were going to "treat" my sperm so both of them could have babies.
Then I wake up - it's a re-occurring dream. Sometimes it's a little different - but mostly it's the same dream. In a lot of ways I wish they would have taken me with them... because I'd rather be traveling the stars with two sexy babes than living on this shithole of a planet. I think their concern is that my emotional state probably couldn't handle it - especially since they're more mature as a species. And I know I'm making assumptions but it's like a 'knowing' - like I've been told this.
Anyway - it's just a story. Peace.

i am divorced and 41 have a daughter who is 18 now. this happened three years ago. i was dating a man (since gone our seperate ways) who was close to my daughter as well as myself. daughter looks a lot like me and has a much younger version of my body. i will tell you right off no he didn't fuck her. i think what we done was even hotter and for sure less risky for all. we were setting around my apt. one evening watching a movie. kimberly had on a jean skirt that she had worn to school and never changed. it was short. in fact we have had arguments about her wearing it. i have told her she looks like 15 yr.old slut. she has a very nice figure not big in boobs neither am i but very nice in the ass and good legs. i noticed stan staring at her across the way in the recliner. she would turn or move and of course you could see right up her skirt. she had on a sexy little pair of pink lacy panties. i just observed what was going on. i think she knew exactly what she was doing cause it kept getting more frequent and the view kept getting better. i was very upset at first with the both of them especially when i noticed his cock hard. i am thinking what kind of guy is he wanting to fuck my 15 year old. stan is a hound, he is older then me by seven years but hung like a young pony. till i started going out with him average and smaller then average cock was all i had ever had. i say the truth, it was like being virgin again. kimmy was c-section and so my vagina was still much tighter then most women my age. i bit my tongue and didn't say anything just watched the movie and let them play their little game. i don't think stan knew she knew what she was doing but i sure did. movie was over and kimmy gave stan a hug and went off to bed. of course stan was horny but i was not happy so i sent him home. didn't like him staying when she was home anyway. this was on wednesday and kimberly was to be with her father the weekend and i started thinking about the whole situation. it started making me horny. the more i thought about it the more turned on i became. this is how i chose to deal with it. stan got there that saturday evening and we ate, drank some wine and smoked a j. got comfy and i got up and excused myself. i came back out with kimberly's skirt on and sat in the same chair she did just a few nights ago. stan had a look on his face of total shock. i said stan i was watching you watch kimmy the other night. i watched your dick get hard and i know what you were thinking. i am not mad. i understand. play along with what i am doing. i sat in the chair and played like i was kim. i would set with my legs open and seduce him till i didn't think he could take it any longer i had even gone so far as to put on the same panties she had worn and they had not been washed. i went over took him by the hand and started leading him down the hall. i took a deep breath and stoped at kimberly's bedroom door. i paused knowing i was about to cross into forbidden territory but i open it and went in, stan was hesitant. i pulled him through the door. i told him i wanted this more then he could imagine. i told him i want you to totally let go, please remove all inhibition and reality and fuck me like you never fucked a girl before. cause tonight as soon as i close this door, i am kimberly and you are stan. we made mad passion and nasty fucking sex right there in her bed he was calling me kim and i was calling him daddy he left the skirt on pulled the panties aside and worked that cock into my pussy and slammed me like he was trying to hurt me with his cock. he would get it as far in as it would go and grind my clit with his pelvic bone. something he had never done. could not get that deep before. with out a doubt the hardest fucking i have ever had. and the thought that he was thinking about her her was insane to me it drove me over the top. when we were done i got up led him out of the room. true story

When I was 19 years old and in college in Florida, I got really heavy into drugs. Mainly party drugs like coke and ecstasy, and of course plenty of weed, but on occasion other drugs as well. I was out of control and living one big party life on my parent's dime while they struggled mightily to pay for me to have the opportunity they never had and go to college. Looking back I feel like a total asshole about it now as they wanted nothing more than for me to be successful and not have to struggle...sorry, I digressed.

Anyway, since I had no money and wanted to keep up my partying lifestyle and since I was always very athletic, in shape and considered "good-looking", through one of the people I met in the party scene I ended up doing some modeling to make some extra money. Pretty low rent stuff, nothing glamorous, but a couple hundred bucks a week.

This quickly evolved into the opportunity to do some "videos". It started with just masturbation videos of me lying in bed, or on a couch or in the shower jerking off. I figured I was going to do it anyway so why not get paid for it and I was getting paid $100-200 per day that I did a shoot. I could sometimes do 3 or 4 scenes in a day. The guy running the operation said he was impressed by my "re-load" ability and also that I had just the right cock for it...I'm about 8 inches, decently thick and my dick looks perfectly formed from shaft to head and can blow pretty big loads even after only a little break in between. I knew that these were primarily for gay guys to watch but I didn't care. If someone gets off from seeing me, so fucking what. I did these for a while and then he asked one day if I'd want to do some full sex movies and photo shoots and showed me some of his portfolio and all things considered the chicks looked pretty hot and we were now talking more like $300-500 per day so I jumped right at the chance.

It was a crazy scene and pretty much everything you wanted was at your fingertips. Women and drugs galore. Parties every night after shooting. We were all in the 18-22 age bracket so it was just a no responsibility show. But as quickly as I made money it went back out the door on drugs and partying. Then one night when we were partying at the main house this director used for shooting videos, him and a couple of the other "big wigs" in their operation asked me if I would be willing to do some more hardcore shit. At first I was thinking they meant bondage, s&m type stuff, but they quickly made it clear they were talking gay action. I immediately said not a chance, I was straight and no way I could do it. They pushed the matter (and a coffee table with a big pile of blow on it) and said that all the actors in their gay shoots are straight guys because that is the look they wanted in their videos, strong masculine men, not femboys. The guys just do "gay for pay" and they also said I could make up to a $1000 per shoot depending on the circumstances. At that point my eyes lit up and I think they knew they had me. I asked them more questions and they said I could be strictly a top and receive blow jobs, that I didn't have to get fucked or suck or kiss anyone if I didn't want to. I could also do bi scenes where a female actress or two would be involved. I said, what the fuck, let's give it a try.

The next week they had scheduled me in for my first scene. I was shaking like a leaf prior to which was totally not like me. In the other stuff I had already done I was totally calm and had no issues getting naked, getting hard and fucking in front of other people. It was a one on one scene with me and another guy. I was going to be swimming naked in the pool and then get out and immediately go to the lounge chair next to the pool when the "pool guy" was going to show up to service the pool and eventually me who was masturbating while watching him clean the pool. I actually was having a difficult time getting hard which was totally not the norm for me, but he came over and began blowing me for a while and soon enough I did get fully hard. I had sunglasses on and just kept my eyes closed and picturing hot women. I put on a condom and ended up fucking him in a few different positions and then to my surprise he end up blowing his load on my chest as he was riding me, then slid off my cock, dropped back down and sucked me to completion taking my load all over his face.

I said afterward that it wasn't that bad, but I didn't think I wanted to do it again...until I got my next offer and more cash. It went on like this for a while and me just doing the fucking and getting sucked. I still was primarily doing straight shoots though. Then the director came to me with a proposal for a scene. It would be me and this girl I had done some straight scenes with and we would be a "married" couple and then another guy who was coming to our house to do some repairs. But he wanted it to be a scene where me and her completely serviced this guy. We all were going to suck and fuck each other, no holds barred type stuff. I was extremely hesitant but he offered up my biggest payday yet and it was a good chunk of money for 4-5 hours of total "work". I was so far gone into the scene at that time that I agreed and said let's do this.

The day came and again I was nervous. I did all my usual prep on my "manscaping" and where I normally do everything I can to keep myself fresh down below, this time I added the step of the diet one of the other male actors recommended and his full enema routine to completely clean me out. The worst thing on a porn set when anal is involved is having a shit accident. It came time for the scene and we were in the bedroom on a king size bed where I was fucking the girl for a while then the "repair" man came in, he joined in with me "thinking" he was just going to play jointly with my wife but then he starts licking my balls and ass and pulling out my cock from the wife's pussy and sucking on it. We go through some more motions and she is sucking him then she tells me she wants to see me suck him and this is it, the moment I took a cock in my mouth. I did what I had to do and then after he fucks her it was my turn to take his cock. I was laying on my back as she sat on my face and then he started fucking my ass. Hurt like hell but I had to put up a good front. He even made a comment that got into the video about how tight my ass was. Anyway, we finished the scene after everyone had been fucked and sucked and I went out that night with some of the other people from set and we got destroyed on drugs and booze. I was fucked up beyond belief and when I got home that night I said that was it, I was done. Absolutely no more of all of it. The drugs the porn, nothing. The next day I called up the director and said to pull me from the stuff he had me scheduled for the next week. He tried to convince me and told me what a fucking amazing job I had done the day before, but I told him I had to get out. I couldn't handle the life and really was regretting all of it. I pulled the plug that day and never looked back.

So, somehow through all of this I didn't flunk out of school. I ended up completing my degree and living out a pretty mundane, boring college life and working a bullshit part-time job in one of the offices on campus answering phones and shit. Really nobody in my "normal" life had any clue about what I had done. My parents were none the wiser about anything I did partying or whatever and were proud as could be the day they saw me get my degree. I started a job with a top consulting firm and in the decade plus since, have worked hard and progressed so much in my career that I look at the "crazy" money I was making from porn and laugh at how little it is compared to now. I am engaged to a very attractive and smart girl who is an attorney and makes plenty of money herself, but also has no clue about my prior life.

I guess my biggest fear is that one day I am going to come on here and see one of my videos front and center. I know they are out there in various places on the web, but they obviously weren't under my real name and the look I had back then was very different than it is now where I am clean cut hair, have a beard, and even back then in a bunch of the scenes I had bleached blonde hair for a while and a deep Floridian tan. I guess my real name and SSN is on file with the porn company somewhere so that could somehow get out, but generally speaking I got away free and clear without any repercussions. Crazy the journey our lives take.

Some people call me a hero, I have no problems with that. It helps with the ladies when you say you've rescued people, saved lives, made a real difference in the world. They lap that shit up like puppies with milk. I don't do it for the pussy, and I don't do it for the accolades. Truth is, right now, I don't know why I do it.

There's a scene in the new Superman movie, and Superman's mum says "save the world if you want, or don't do anything if you don't - you don't owe them a damn thing". I've been thinking about that line recently, ever since I saw the trailer. I've lived my life by the Uncle Ben philosophy, that with great power comes great responsibility. There's something noble about using your gifts to save lives, there's a sense of moral obligation when you are as massively well-endowed as myself. I've lived my life according to that philosophy for as long as I can remember, but now, I'm tired.

You might wonder what I do that makes me so great. So I'll tell you. I'm a gigolo, a male prostitute. I'm one of the best in the business. I make women come, and come hard. I make women get in touch with their bodies and orgasm like a slut. I give them my time and and concern, and in return, they give me a lot of money. So I'm rich beyond my lifestyle, and I have a fulfilling job that makes people happy. No one gets hurt, it's all happy smiles and laughter.

But lately, I've been thinking that there must be more to life. I live in the shadows, basically. At parties, when people ask me what to do, I'm momentarily speechless, and then I lie. I tell them I do charity work, build homes in 3rd world countries and shit like that. I lied like that so many times that I actually started going out to do it, just so I knew what I was talking about. And now that's my life. I build homes for dirt-poor communities, hook them up with solar power for heating and water. I love it, it's rewarding in a way that's socially acceptable. I've pretty much stopped my prostitution business except for a few long-term clients who wouldn't be able to cope without my visits.

But even then, it's hard to do this for the rest of my life. So I've decided to be Batman. I want to run around town in a hood and cape and beat the crap out of evil-doers. I'm rich enough to mod my car into the batmobile. Does anyone want to join me?

I lost my daughter this year. She did not die. I lost her to drugs. Things between us will never be the same. The hurt and the pain I feel from knowing I will never see her again is immense. I have lost every women I have loved in my life. It started with my mom at age 10 and has not stopped.
I confess I just want my little girl back. This is worse than dead as she is there but I can not hug her. She is there but I can not talk to her. I see her smiles only in my dreams. God please help me!

I really do enjoy the girls on here that are taboo, not because I would want to contact one the way some people post about. I was hurt as a kid and I wouldn't want to see that happen to strangers or close family. I just enjoy the ones that wanted to be exhibitionist with a body that will never be as artfully beautiful again in the same way. I love women of all ages. I can appreciate the much older women that still want to be the exhibitionist they have likely always been, all the way down the line to cougars, miles, college, HS.

But the less aged girls (grass on the field rule) are the ones you fell in love with when you hit that special time in a boys life when his imagination becomes his greatest friend and enemy. And to see them today is gratifying and exciting to that kid that most of us, hopefully, never let go of.

I just wish there was a good way for all parties involved to be properly compensated.

And to the morally righteous that surf a porn site, yes, I do feel very fucked up for coming here to peruse the photos I am referring to, but I felt fucked up for looking at any porn, just because we draw arbitrary lines in the sand doesn't make a person better than any other.

OK, So here is the one confession that I was never going to tell under the grounds that...well...I just felt really bad about it. But having just talked to one of the people involved, I am no longer ashamed of My actions.

I was dating girl named Tracy who I met in High School, (both 17 at the time) and we were together for about 11 months. After about 3 months in, Tracy still would not have sex, and I was getting frustrated with her only giving hand jobs. (She refused to give a blow job) One night while at a party at my older brother's friends I ran into Tracy's older sister Melissa, who is just as hot as Tracy, but with bigger tits. She knew I was dating her sister and she asked me if we "did the deed yet". I told her no, not yet, but I'm working on her. She told me, if Tracy wouldn't do it, she would, and then walked away! I was turned on, but also thought she was just messing with me. Later that evening I could see Melissa was getting very drunk and I started to see other guys noticing her. So I thought it best if I got her out of there and take her home. (To protect her of course. Or at least that is what I told Myself)

On the drive home, I asked her if she was serious about what she said about having sex? Without saying a word, she unbuckled her seat belt, leaned over, kissed my neck and went down to blow me. I immediately pulled over and parked in front of someone's house and leaned back. She unzipped my pants, pulled My cock out, and started sucking. I came almost instantly.(Did I mention I was 17??) She took and swallowed it all. When I was done, she sat back up in her seat, looked at me and said, "is that serious enough?"

This started to become a habit. Melissa and I would meet almost every weekend and suck and fuck. She was very kinky, taking it in any hole. Nothing was off limits. Shes the first girl I ever tied up and fucked in the ass. (Been kind of hooked on that since!)

Of course, I was still dating Tracy, and she had no idea about me and her sister. And I was also still trying to get in her pants. In fact, the more I fucked Melissa, the more I wanted Tracy. Wanted to see if she was just as tight, just as kinky? Eventually, Tracy gave in....5 months into our relationship, and she was fucking amazing. She told me I was not her first, but slipping My cock inside her was like trying to fit a sausage into a pencil sharpener hole. I tongue fucked her until her cunt was dripping wet with her cum and I still had a hard time pushing it in. She was loud and even squealed. Complained it hurt but to not stop. We fucked good and hard for about 15 minutes, until I came (In the condom)

Once we started, we could not stop. Tracy loved me tongue fucking her and fingering her pussy and even her ass, but unfortunately, she would not let me fuck her ass. In fact she even started having issues about me fucking her pussy. She complained I was too big and I hurt her. (I wanted to say, you're sister doesn't complain!) I could only fuck her pussy if I got her really turned on. Had to tease her pussy. Play with her clit but only barely finger her...make her want something inside her.

The weekend following the first time with Tracy, I met with Melissa and she wanted to hear all about it. I told her everything, including how Tracy still will not give me head. So Melissa would suck My cock as I tell her how tight her sister was, and how sweet her pussy tastes. Melissa wanted me to fuck Tracy and then immediately come see her so she could suck My cock clean and taste her sisters pussy on My cock. (which we did multiple times.)

Then, Melissa wanted me to demand that Tracy suck me off. Hell I demanded and even begged. I even tried cutting her off and acting like I was mad at her for not sucking. Finally, one night, Tracy agreed that after dinner at her parents she would give me a Blow Job!!!

I told Melissa that it was finally going to happen and then she came to me with this plan. She figured that since she's been tasting her sister all this time, it's only fair that Tracy tastes her!

So that evening, just before going to her parents, Melissa came to My place. My Parents were out and we fucked like mad...she rode my cock and rubbed her clit making sure she came several times. She would take My cock out and then press it in her ass....then back to her pussy. ass / pussy / ass / pussy all the while Melissa saying...'Tracy's going to taste me all over you". I ended up cumming so hard inside her ass. When we were done, we were both drenched. Melissa got dressed and left and I just towel dried and got dressed and went to her parents.

We had dinner and then slipped out of the house to go back to My house. Once we got there, we started making out. I was rock hard already. She was rubbing me through my pants and finally started to go down. I undid My pants and slipped them down for her....she got down on her knees, pulled My cock out of My underwear and started licking.

I was a bit surprised that she liked it. Her face made no sign of not liking the taste or smell. She was licking My shaft and then started taking it in her mouth...stroking me with her hand and sucking the head. I was going nuts knowing that she's licking up Melissa's cum. I was more turned on by that than the blow job itself. She started licking and sucking My balls and I just lost it. I said I was going to cum....and she shoved me back in her mouth and I came right down her throat. She was gagging and coughing, but never gave up, swallowed everything.

Afterwards she told me she just doesn't like doing that will nly do it on special occasions! I just nodded!

The next day I told Melissa about what happened and she was cracking up. But I felt very bad about it. I mean wtf..I would not want to eat a girls pussy that was just fucked by someone else! So I told Melissa I was done with this. It's getting to fucked up. She just said that was fine with her...good luck with Tracy!

Unfortunately, about 3 months later apparently Tracy and Melissa got in a big fight and Melissa told Tracy to "go check the cum-stained-panties in my drawer that I saved from the night (MacDaddy0)fucked me, hours before YOU blew him!"

Needless to say, this was the end of our relationship. I tried to say she was full of shit and just wants to break us up.....but the damage was done.

After that, neither one of them talked to me for a loooong loooong time. I ran into a mutual friend once and she told me how Tracy and Melissa hate each other and don't talk at all anymore. Then later I heard that Tracy switched to women!

Just today I was talking to Tracy who tracked me down on FB. She's Married (to a woman) and saw me through a mutual FB friend. She wanted to say Hi and talk. We talked for some time about life and how things work out. While she still said I was a pig for what happened, she also said she's glad it happened. It helped her realize she hates men and (her words) "She likes the taste of pussy!" LOL

Sadly her and her sister are still on bad terms, but there are lots of reasons for that, not just me.

Anyway, that's the story that bugged me for years, and not so much. In retrospect, I'd probably do it all over again. After all, Melissa got me into Bondage that eventually turned me into the Dom I am today! Plus, fuck...I was 17...who would NOT take any piece of ass at that age!?

Men MUST Give Mandatory Spankings
It's hard to maintain consistency when we have such a busy schedule and especially when my husband is out of town during most weeks. Sometimes we get to put in one solid week of submission training and I can really tell a difference in how I feel and how our marriage is during those weeks that he's home.

A spanking keeps me in line, and it keeps most women in line although the mainstream is afraid to face it or admit it. At first it feels embarrassing to say you need to be spanked, but after a while you realize there's no shame in it. Men are leaders and that doesn't mean women can't lead, but it means that we are designed to co-lead with the man.

Women have a whole lot more hormonal and emotional things happening in their bodies and minds than men do. I don't know about you but sometimes I can't even control my emotions. Sometimes I feel sad for no reason or irritable for no reason and that's when a being brought over his knee helps to refocus my energy and bring me to a happier place.

If I go a few days without being held accountable I start to use bad language, I get a negative outlook, I get crabby and hateful and angry, and then I end up getting a hard punishment lashing instead of the normal daily maintenance. I'd rather have the daily discipline than the punishment one any day of the week.

My bum is an instrument of peace in our marriage. When my husband is angry with me, we don't have to fight, he simply pulls down my pants and gives me a spanking, during which he releases his anger and I submit and the argument dies right there.

Being spanked is a stress release for a woman, especially if you paddle her until she cries. Making her cry might seem mean at first, but it isn't, it's opening the dam of her emotions and helping her release it all. Sometimes women just need to cry and then the world is a better place. Sometimes it takes a man's belt on her bare ass to provide that release.

Men, women need rules because rules make us feel protected and safe. Also, when we break a rule we need immediate consequences because that makes us feel noticed and loved. There is nothing worse in a woman's heart than if she feels unnoticed, uncared for or unloved. The worse times in our marriage have been when I've felt ignored by him or less important than other people or other things or like he was neglecting what was important to me. Those are big danger areas for a woman and men need to be able to recognize those areas and fix what needs to be fixed. Sometimes just getting on a routine discipline schedule will fill in the gaps and show her how much she is loved.

Men, be ready for your woman to test you out in public with her words or attitude. She may not even consciously know it, but this is a test. She wants to see if you will be strong enough to hold the reigns and follow through on your rules. It isn't always possible to discipline in public, but if the opportunity is there, take it. It will make a huge difference in your marriage. If you're out at a movie or a restaurant and there is a designated "family restroom" that is one room with a locked door, take your wife in there, lock the door, bend her over the sink and give her a belting or a hand spanking. If you are driving, pull into a secluded spot, open both the front and back door on one side of the car, bend your wife over the back seat so that the view is blocked by both doors and give her a hard paddling. I know of men who have taken their wife out to the parking lot, sat in the backseat of their cars with their wife over their knee and given them a walloping without anyone knowing. There are ways to make it happen when it needs to. At the very least, if you cannot make it happen, take her by the arm and whisper in her ear that she is going to get it when you get home. Let her anticipate the spanking for the rest of the evening and then upon arriving home, administer it immediately.

By making her spanking a priority in your life, you are making HER a priority. By caring enough to enforce the rules, you are telling her that you care enough about HER to make her feel safe and protected. It all begins with your hand on her backside in a consistent and permeating way.

So, if you have an inconsistent pattern, this is what you need to do:

1. Mandatory spanking every morning and every evening that you are together. This MUST happen without fail. Make time for it. Do this for a period of 14 days total if your weeks are broken up with travel or two weeks consistently if you are both home.

2. Seven of these 14 days she must exercise an attitude of submission by coming to her husband and asking to receive a spanking. This is in addition to the regular morning and evening sessions. Whenever you are together, for lunch, the middle of the night, it doesn't matter when, the wife must exhibit submission by going to the husband, taking off her clothes and asking him to discipline her. She may bring him a tool or he may use his hand, take off his belt, a spatula, ping pong paddle, hairbrush, whatever is at his disposal.

3. Prior to the morning and evening session, the wife must be given anticipation and reflection time. This is time naked and either in the corner or in spanking position, reflecting on her behavior and anticipating the discipline he is about to administer. It doesn't have to be a long period of time, 1-3 minutes is adequate.

4. Spankings must be long and hard to be effective. If her bottom isn't bright red and burning hot then it is not going to be effective. Hard, fast swats get the point across the quickest.

After 14 days she should hurt to sit down. Her bottom should be sore but her heart will be warm and so will your marriage.